Airliners-India.com Flickr Group & Facebook    FAQ   Search   Memberlist   Usergroups   Register   Profile   Log in to check your private messages   Log in  Honey Trap          Airliners-India.com Forum Index -> Non Aviation View previous topic :: View next topic   Author Message himmat01 Member Joined: 19 Dec 2006 Posts: 1392 Location: DEL Posted: Fri May 24, 2013 5:29 pm    Post subject: Honey Trap Has any one out here faced a situation of being lured in to a "Honey Trap"? I am facing it and have decided that a strategic withdrawal from the "situation" is the best option. Posting here because posting on FB would have been too risky. _________________ Save Maharashtra! Back to top jasepl Member Joined: 26 Jul 2008 Posts: 4257 Location: bund-bay Posted: Fri May 24, 2013 5:39 pm    Post subject: We need details. And pictures. _________________ four years free of jetya punti! Back to top himmat01 Member Joined: 19 Dec 2006 Posts: 1392 Location: DEL Posted: Fri May 24, 2013 5:46 pm    Post subject: One lady banker is trying to use all possible means to transfer my corporate account from AXIS Bank to her bank. _________________ Save Maharashtra! Back to top jasepl Member Joined: 26 Jul 2008 Posts: 4257 Location: bund-bay Posted: Fri May 24, 2013 5:56 pm    Post subject: himmat01 wrote: One lady banker is trying to use all possible means to transfer my corporate account from AXIS Bank to her bank. Define "all possible" _________________ four years free of jetya punti! Back to top Spiderguy252 Member Joined: 10 Aug 2007 Posts: 4259 Location: Indian Ocean Posted: Fri May 24, 2013 8:49 pm    Post subject: Just hang up the next time she calls. _________________ Yeah. Back to top Karan69 Member Joined: 22 Dec 2006 Posts: 1334 Posted: Fri May 24, 2013 9:50 pm    Post subject: Your my something something , your my honey bunny Back to top d3vski Member Joined: 17 Apr 2009 Posts: 440 Location: In the First Class lounge..... Posted: Fri May 24, 2013 10:08 pm    Post subject: Be disciplined. Use the 'inducements' to your advantage. Get maximum maaza but stay disciplined and DO NOT transfer anything. It takes 2 to tango! Back to top Nimish Member Joined: 16 Dec 2006 Posts: 9757 Location: Bangalore, India Posted: Fri May 24, 2013 10:13 pm    Post subject: This is very typical - the decision makers are offered all sorts of incentives to get new business. I know one of my earlier employers once gave a pure gold "Ganesha" idol (smallish one) to a vendor/supplier manager at a leading bank (South East Asian bank) to ensure that business continues to flow. Ultimately if you don't think it's a deal that's right for your company, what stops you from just saying a firm no? If you think it would help, then provide your key reasons as well (real and imagined). When the lady realizes there's no upside in the conversation, you'll be surprised how soon the honey trap becomes a venus fly trap . _________________ We miss you Nalini! Back to top himmat01 Member Joined: 19 Dec 2006 Posts: 1392 Location: DEL Posted: Sat May 25, 2013 12:54 pm    Post subject: I have simply stopped answering her calls. She had a great deal and I really don't understand why she had to try and lure me into a weekend out with her. Sad part is that I have known her for 3 years. She has ruined a good friendship. _________________ Save Maharashtra! Back to top Spiderguy252 Member Joined: 10 Aug 2007 Posts: 4259 Location: Indian Ocean Posted: Sat May 25, 2013 4:13 pm    Post subject: himmat01 wrote: I have simply stopped answering her calls. Yep, always works. Tough to have a game of tennis with just the one person on the field of play. _________________ Yeah. Back to top Jaysit Member Joined: 19 Dec 2006 Posts: 4346 Posted: Tue May 28, 2013 7:56 pm    Post subject: himmat01 wrote: I have simply stopped answering her calls. She had a great deal and I really don't understand why she had to try and lure me into a weekend out with her. Sad part is that I have known her for 3 years. She has ruined a good friendship. If she offered a great business deal, go for the business deal. As for a weekend out with her, just tell her you don't think it would be a good idea because (a) you value your friendship; and (b) you value the business relationship you've both established. Engaging in any kind of romance would just jeopardize both (a) and (b). Running away from such a situation is never a good idea. You're both adults. If you run away from this deal, you both may lose out on a good business deal. Back to top himmat01 Member Joined: 19 Dec 2006 Posts: 1392 Location: DEL Posted: Wed May 29, 2013 10:40 am    Post subject: [quote="Jaysit"] himmat01 wrote: If she offered a great business deal, go for the business deal. As for a weekend out with her, just tell her you don't think it would be a good idea because (a) you value your friendship; and (b) you value the business relationship you've both established. Engaging in any kind of romance would just jeopardize both (a) and (b). Running away from such a situation is never a good idea. You're both adults. If you run away from this deal, you both may lose out on a good business deal. The deal is still on. It was her bank which offered the deal. Looking back, I do agree that avoiding her or her calls was a knee jerk reaction _________________ Save Maharashtra! Back to top Aseem Member Joined: 15 Dec 2006 Posts: 2841 Location: YYZ Posted: Fri May 31, 2013 10:04 pm    Post subject: frankly! I was expecting greater masala from a son of ex-serviceman! VT-ASJ _________________ [url=http://openflights.org/user/aseemsjohri] [/url] Back to top himmat01 Member Joined: 19 Dec 2006 Posts: 1392 Location: DEL Posted: Sat Jun 01, 2013 10:18 am    Post subject: Aseem wrote: frankly! I was expecting greater masala from a son of ex-serviceman! VT-ASJ The masala part can't be shared on a public forum. _________________ Save Maharashtra! Back to top sri_bom Member Joined: 22 Dec 2006 Posts: 2365 Location: Singapore Posted: Sun Jun 02, 2013 12:07 pm    Post subject: himmat01 wrote: One lady banker is trying to use all possible means to transfer my corporate account from AXIS Bank to her bank. Since this involves deals pertaining to yourr organization best to stay out of honey traps, you never know when it will bite back. Back to top avbuff Member Joined: 22 Dec 2006 Posts: 5031 Posted: Thu Jun 06, 2013 1:42 pm    Post subject: himmat01 wrote: Aseem wrote: frankly! I was expecting greater masala from a son of ex-serviceman! VT-ASJ The masala part can't be shared on a public forum. Oh come on ... you can always PM us. Back to top himmat01 Member Joined: 19 Dec 2006 Posts: 1392 Location: DEL Posted: Fri Jun 07, 2013 10:53 pm    Post subject: I now feel that I had wrongly perceived her action as allurement. As suggested by a friend, I met up with her. She was extremely sad that I had been avoiding her calls. She feels that she enjoys my company and likes to spend time with me. She can openly discuss her problems with me. And that she considers me as her best friend She is not very happy with her marriage but is hanging on for the sake of her daughter who has just cleared her Class 12. Running away now would mean that I am ditching a person who looks up to me for support and on the other hand the wife will not like that some other woman is so close to me. _________________ Save Maharashtra! Back to top The_Goat Member Joined: 03 Mar 2007 Posts: 3260 Location: South of France Posted: Sat Jun 08, 2013 1:26 am    Post subject: himmat01 wrote: I now feel that I had wrongly perceived her action as allurement. As suggested by a friend, I met up with her. She was extremely sad that I had been avoiding her calls. She feels that she enjoys my company and likes to spend time with me. She can openly discuss her problems with me. And that she considers me as her best friend She is not very happy with her marriage but is hanging on for the sake of her daughter who has just cleared her Class 12. Running away now would mean that I am ditching a person who looks up to me for support and on the other hand the wife will not like that some other woman is so close to me. Talk to your wife about it. Then bring the lady home and get her introduced to your wife. If she can earn your wife's trust, she will have two best friends in you and your wife. If it is only a friend the lady wants, this is clearly a much better option for her. Of course, it is still not clear if she has any ulterior motive, given that her marriage is a failure and she seems to have taken a liking for you. The danger that she may try to drive a wedge between you and your wife will always be there, particularly if she gets to know your wife well. But should that happen, you will at least, not be a suspect in your wife's eyes, since you have revealed everything before hand. _________________ I don't know which is the more pampered bunch : AI's widebodies (the aunties) or Jet's widebodies (the planes). -Jasepl Back to top Nimish Member Joined: 16 Dec 2006 Posts: 9757 Location: Bangalore, India Posted: Sun Jun 09, 2013 9:20 am    Post subject: The_Goat wrote: Talk to your wife about it. Then bring the lady home and get her introduced to your wife. If she can earn your wife's trust, she will have two best friends in you and your wife. If it is only a friend the lady wants, this is clearly a much better option for her. Excellent advice - or meet her at a restaurant with your wife along. _________________ We miss you Nalini! Back to top ssbmat Member Joined: 20 Dec 2006 Posts: 1710 Posted: Sun Jun 09, 2013 8:27 pm    Post subject: Sometimes women may find it easier to confide in men instead of other women. So there may not be the same level of rapport with ones wife as compared to with the person himself. Back to top Nimish Member Joined: 16 Dec 2006 Posts: 9757 Location: Bangalore, India Posted: Sun Jun 09, 2013 9:39 pm    Post subject: ssbmat wrote: Sometimes women may find it easier to confide in men instead of other women. So there may not be the same level of rapport with ones wife as compared to with the person himself. Agreed ssbmat, however the advice here is mainly around preventing any confusion in the marriage. _________________ We miss you Nalini! Back to top ssbmat Member Joined: 20 Dec 2006 Posts: 1710 Posted: Mon Jun 10, 2013 7:16 am    Post subject: One possibility is -she may just indulge in a general chit-chat if wife is taken along- giving the impression that there isnt any real issue..just regular domestic child-raising issues or some such thing, leaving the wife to wonder why is such a big deal being made out of it. I think a lot depends on how maturely it is handled by the wife, rather than the friend, who, for all purposes, is a complete outsider. Back to top himmat01 Member Joined: 19 Dec 2006 Posts: 1392 Location: DEL Posted: Mon Jun 10, 2013 10:05 am    Post subject: She had my wife have spoken on phone earlier and to be frank they are not exactly very friendly. I was thinking of introducing her to a very good friend of mine who is divorced and looking for a new life partner. Maybe if things work out between them, they can make a new beginning together. They both have nothing to lose. _________________ Save Maharashtra! Back to top Nimish Member Joined: 16 Dec 2006 Posts: 9757 Location: Bangalore, India Posted: Mon Jun 10, 2013 6:21 pm    Post subject: himmat01 wrote: She had my wife have spoken on phone earlier and to be frank they are not exactly very friendly. Warning bells! _________________ We miss you Nalini! Back to top himmat01 Member Joined: 19 Dec 2006 Posts: 1392 Location: DEL Posted: Tue Jun 11, 2013 12:29 pm    Post subject: Nimish wrote: himmat01 wrote: She had my wife have spoken on phone earlier and to be frank they are not exactly very friendly. Warning bells! I have to confess that I too was getting close to her. One more step and it would have been an extra marital affair. I am meeting her today and plan to bring this to an end. _________________ Save Maharashtra! Back to top sammyk Member Joined: 20 Dec 2006 Posts: 2719 Location: Austin, TX Posted: Tue Jun 11, 2013 9:08 pm    Post subject: Just hit it and quit it! Back to top C-GHKR Member Joined: 26 Dec 2006 Posts: 626 Location: yyz Posted: Tue Jun 11, 2013 9:29 pm    Post subject: Can a straight man and woman be just friends and very close, emotionally? Will there be a temptation or tension (assuming the latter is super hot in your mind). Luckily I have never been in such a situation and at this age don't foresee any. thoughts... The OP has mixed feelings, it seems as expected Keep some distance and you could still be friends, IMO. Back to top himmat01 Member Joined: 19 Dec 2006 Posts: 1392 Location: DEL Posted: Tue Jun 18, 2013 2:26 pm    Post subject: Ctril-Alt-Del. _________________ Save Maharashtra! Back to top The_Goat Member Joined: 03 Mar 2007 Posts: 3260 Location: South of France Posted: Tue Jun 18, 2013 2:53 pm    Post subject: himmat01 wrote: Ctril-Alt-Del. does that mean restarting ( the affair) all over again??? 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